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Welcome to Cupid's Dating Tips & Advice!

Wondering why you never get a response, eh? Don't worry fellas, you're not alone! The most frequent complaints men share with Cupid regarding this whole internet dating scene is that women don't respond to their ads or email. Trust me. If you follow these simple guidelines while writing both your free ad and your responses to womens' ads, your chances will dramatically improve. Best of luck to you!

*** The Brutal Statistics ***

Why does Cupid strongly recommend getting a Personal Biography Web Site?

  • 33% of men placing personal ads are married!
  • 15-20% use fake pictures!
  • A tad under 50% are dishonest about either;
    who they are, where they're from or what they do!

  • Most Women are hip to these stats

    You must set yourself apart, and establish credibility! If you don't wish to obtain a Web Site Ala Cupid, you should consider creating your own

    Hot Tips when responding to a woman's personal ad.

    Always keep in mind that less is more
    Be different! Be creative! Be funny!

    Females tend to get swamped with replies, so your wording should be witty, precise and to the point (and as poetic as possible). Cater to each female you're responding to. Take what you consider their best feature and implement it into your response.

    For example, say she has a great smile... You might respond:

    --- Greetings to you, Mi'Lady.

    The essence of that dazzling smile compells me to ponder
    what is it you seek, and why? Perhaps you may grace me
    with your answer? Helplessly, I find myself wishing to
    offer you some insight about who I am. I'd be delighted
    to have you drop by my website:

    http://beam.to/yourname

    You may contact me from there if you find yourself the least
    bit curious.

    Cordially yours,

    yourname

    Now this might seem corny but I can tell ya, the gals dig it!

    If it's a gal you're "really" interested in, ALWAYS use her name or handle in your response. There's to many generic "cut & paste" response's out there, and us females can spot 'em a mile away! Chances are, you will not get a reply

    Women will most likely be attracted to a response that's different and has a creative edge.
    For example you might try:

    --- How are things going for you today?

    You know... I was reading the most interesting article
    about how men and women fall in love differently. And
    it was saying that men (being the visual creatures that
    we are) usually feel an attraction first, but that women,
    by contrast, usually feels a "connection" first, then
    subsequently becomes more "attracted". I mean, you know
    that kind of special connection you sometimes feel...
    that mysterious compelling click that takes place right THERE.

    Well, being the mere "male" mammal that I am, I must
    confess to being rather "attracted" the photo in your ad,
    but then felt, "connected" to the words you wrote to
    accompany it. After all, intelligence is beauty in
    it's purest form am I right?

    (Most any "woman" would reply to this response)

    The most "important" thing is to use proper spelling and syntax when responding to ads. You only have the one first chance to make a good impression. Women do not like sloppy letters. USE YOUR SPELL CHECK for every outgoing mail! One of the reasons I use USA mail for my clients is because it has a good spell check feature. It only takes a minute, yet can make all the difference. Also, women are visual creatures. Use the stationery feature as well. Give your email
    some color-you have many to choose from. Be creative! Let her remember you as the guy that had cute little hearts in his email! Stand out from all the rest, and always come across as a gentleman!

    Nothing wrong with using humor as well, you might
    end your response with a cute joke.

    For example:

    What is it when a man talks nasty to a woman?- Sexual Harassment
    What is it when a woman talks nasty to a man?- $3.99 a minute.

    Smart man + smart woman = romance
    Dumb man + dumb woman = pregnancy
    Smart man + dumb woman = affair
    Dumb man + smart woman = marriage

    A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband...
    A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.

    A successful man makes more money than his wife can spend...
    A successful woman is one who can find such a man.

    You get the idea...
    Let her remember you as the guy that left a smile on her face :-)

    Hot Tips For Attracting Women Via Your Personal Ad

    There are literally millions of singles seeking partners via the Net.
    For a fella to be effective, YOU MUST SET YOURSELF APART!

    There are thousands of:

    'DWM's, 44, seeking beautiful woman for love'
    *Yawn*

    The hot tips when it comes to attracting women via
    your personal ad?

    Mystery
    Humor
    Honesty

    Just like your responses, your personal ad should be simple yet witty, honest, precise and to the point. It should also be somewhat of an open book. You want to leave them wishing to know more about you! Also, if you don't post a photo, you'll probably never get a response, thus I can't stress enough how important this is for your success.

    General Tips & Guidelines

    l) BE HONEST. The fastest way to ruin what might have been a beautiful friendship is to lie. Leave out the fact that you are a single father of screaming 3 year-old triplet insomniacs, and miss a chance to find the woman who wants
    to love them, sharing your parental joys, and perhaps having the perfect lullaby.

    Dishonesty will always be caught sooner or later. Allow others to make informed decisions about what they will and will not accept, based on an honest representation
    of yourself.

    As a fit person you would likely be disappointed to learn that the woman you've been writing for the last month weighs 250 pounds, and not l25 as stated. She may feel likewise to learn you are the Ex U.S. president, and not the sole object of your adoration!

    Be truthful and avoid the pain, heartache, disappointment and separation caused by dishonesty. Open yourself to incredible happiness by allowing others to love you as you are, for who you are.

    2) CREATE A 'GRABBER'. A 'grabber' is an attention-getting headline which stands
    out above the rest and demands to be read. Again, there are many, many 'DWM's, 44, seeking love' out there. You and four million others fit this description. Be different, even if you ARE a 'DWM, 44, seeking love'. For example, here's a few I have used for my clients over the last couple years:

    Set A Course For Adventure - Your Mind On A New Romance

    or

    Prince Charming Seeks Fair Maiden - Have Slipper Will Travel
    or

    Rumpelstiltskin seeks Puss in Boots for modern fairy tale with lucrative marketing potential
    or

    Tasmanian devil seeks sleek fox or wily coyote for interspecies communion
    or

    Passionfish desperately yearns for heroic salmon or reformed piranha to swim upstream with.
    or

    Undomesticatable Aries seeks lion-tamer or snake-charmer who doesn't mind getting bit once in a while.
    or

    Overeducated slave to trend seeks strong-minded business man by day & funky white boy by night for intellectual intercourse and adventure. Bonus points fordark haired, suit-weilding, confident, communicative, five-'clock shadow donning charmers who can effectively pack a smile I can feel in my toes.

    Would you be more likley to respond to the above, or
    'DWF Seeks Nice Honest Man for relationship'?

    3) BE SPECIFIC. You know who you are and what you want..tell them about it! Almost everyone seems to enjoy 'moonlit walks, candlelight dinners, and strolls on the beach'. Be specific about values held and sought, in addition to naming hobbies and interests. If you know your soulmate is a Buddhist, say so. If you are adamant about remaining childless, convey that too. State your willingness to travel. The woman in Paris may not respond when she notes you live in Rio, if you fail to mention that geographic location is no barrier. What is your personal mantra? Share it. The woman who understands and appreciates it best, is the one who will reply.

    4) BE POSITIVE. Let your natural exuberance and zest for life shine through in your writing. Negativity repels. You may elicit an offer from a counselling service if you project a woebegone, or suicidal attitude, but you probably won't attract
    your soulmate.

    5) BEST FOOT FORWARD. You wouldn't (hopefully) show up on a first date unwashed and unkempt, would you? Likewise, if your spelling skills are somewhat lacking, consult a dictionary before submitting your otherwise artfully crafted and well-thought-out ad.

    6) BE HONEST, BE WITTY, BE POETIC! Aspects which cannot be over-stated!!

    Last but not least-

    Get a Personalized Biography Web Site!

    It gives you "credibility" showing potential matches that you're
    "serious" and "willing" to take that extra step to find who you seek.

    Now trust me guys. I have a lot of female clients, and have been in this business long enough to know there are "thousands upon thousands" of wonderful, attractive, smart and funny single girls out there. The thing is, they become very intimidated> because of the sheer volume of email they receive. If you follow the above guidelines, your chances will improve dramatically! If you send them a link to your web site, giving them the option to contact you, your chances can increase almost ten fold. ALL my female clients tell me at the very least, they will go check out a fellas web site.

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    Check out the competition. What attracts your attention to their ads? Note those which stand out have clarity and are original, personal, and direct. What can you say about yourself in a single sentence which makes you irresistible to the opposite sex?

    If you truly seek love and long-term commitment, comments about length, size and shape of 'physical' attributes are a turn-off to women who seek men of intellectual, emotional, and spiritual substance. Pornographic headlines are not accepted into the database. If you are well-endowed with a fabulous sense of humour, use it! Nothing attracts so quickly as laughter and goodwill. But use it in "good taste".

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